Be in appreciation, rather than expectation.
Unfortunately, we sometimes set our expectations of ourselves and others too high. We want a perfect performance, we want people to react the way we want and to think and behave the way we do.
Yet, when they do not meet our anticipated standard, we find ourselves deflated and frustrated. We get hung up when our expectations are not met. We ask questions like “Why?!” and give unsolicited advice like “You should have done this.” We feel let down.
But this is a situation that we have caused ourselves. We have set our response up for failure due to our lofty expectations.
Of course, there is a minimum threshold which we should aim to uphold. And we should set ambitious goals.
Instead, we need to learn to “appreciate”, and be grateful for when the standard is upheld.
And if we exceed the standard…
Take a moment to reflect on what you’ve learnt, give yourself (or the other) a pat on the back and set the next target.
Expectation is the root of all heartache.
// Shakespeare.
Simon G. Cooper 