There are two ways of being…
The way we communicate, especially when things don’t go our way, or how we make a decision is dependent on these ways of being.
We can either be in a reactive state or a measured, controlled state.
When we are reactive, we make decisions in the moment and say the first thing that comes into our head. We rarely stop to consider the implications of our actions. In comparison, when we are controlled, we don’t react; we respond. With care and thoughtfulness, we take our time and consider the consequences of our words and actions.
It’s much more diffiult to take a breath and respond in a calm, measured way. It’s far easier to react based on impulse or instinct. To say the first thing that comes to mind.
We need to be thoughtful in how we communicate. The powerful thing is that we can choose.
Simon G. Cooper 